What’s up guys, how are you doing?
Part of the pre-college experience includes deciding whether you want to spend a solid seventy-five percent of your time living with loads of girls or living with boys and girls (unless you’re a boy, then, I mean, you’d have to choose between living with all boys and living with girls and boys). But there are many misconceptions that go along with making this decision, and some of them actually almost swayed me into choosing something other than what I ended up choosing.
Let me address those misconceptions. Perhaps you’ve heard that any girl who decides to live in a co-ed dorm is obviously only doing so for easy access to boys for reasons that I’m sure you can imagine yourself. Perhaps you’ve also heard that the girls who choose to live in an all-girls dorm only do so because they think they’re better than other girls. I can’t speak for misconceptions about guys’ living arrangements (if there even are any) because I’m obviously not male, but I’m sure they’d be something similar to the ones girls face. Either way, I can assure you that neither of those assumptions are true in most cases. Sure, occasionally you’ll come across a girl who really is only in a co-ed dorm for the sole purpose of hooking up with as many guys as she possibly can. And it’s very possible that a girl or two you meet in an all girls dorm hall will just be an awful person. Unfortunately, those girls exist. You can’t always avoid them.
My point, though, is that by no means are you actually going to be considered a bad person for whichever decision you make. Here at Butler University, the co-ed freshman dorm is called Ross Hall, and the all girls dorm is Schwitzer. Maria and I live in Ross, and guess what? We’re called “Rosstitutes.” Nice, right? It’s okay, the girls in Schwitzer are called “Schwitz B*tches.” You will literally never avoid the misconceptions, but they’re not true. Despite the awful nicknames, we all know it’s just fun and games. We all hang out with each other, we all get along, and the girls in Schwitzer still come to Ross to hang out with the boys the same way we just have to go to the bottom floors to hang out with them. Don’t let anything sway you when making your decision, because no matter where you choose to live, you’ve got to be comfortable there, and that’s all that matters.
I’ll tell you why I chose to live in a co-ed dorm. I don’t know if my thought process will help you any, but if there’s even a possibility that it could, then I’m good with that. Basically, I am that girl who doesn’t get along with girls. Not even that, exactly, but I just…I can’t relate well with them, I think, because of my background. The only girls I normally ever really get along with are ones who, you know, bow hunt and go mudding in the summer and fishing and who climbed trees when they were younger and who play King of the Raft in the middle of lakes with their guy friends. So the obvious problem with that is that there are very few girls like that, especially here in Indianapolis. And I just don’t relate well normally with girls who dress like they’re going to church every day and who straighten or curl their hair relentlessly and who seek out attention from everyone they come into contact with in a day (my friendship with Maria is a very unusual thing; we’ve discussed it already).
Based on that information, I’m sure you can understand why I’d choose to live in Ross Hall. I’m more comfortable with guys, I understand their humor, I get along with them. We generally tend to enjoy the same things (apart from, you know, the obvious things) (and videogames). So why would I want to live in an all girls dorm if I knew that I wouldn’t do well there? I mean, there are girls here too. Girls live on the third floor while the bottom two floors plus the basement are boys’ rooms, which means we have to have our own key to even get on our floor. Boys aren’t allowed up unless they’re escorted by a girl (keep in mind that this system is different for other colleges, but this is how Butler works). So it’s not like guys just roam the halls and we’re the minority ducking for cover or anything like that. I haven’t even actually met a guy yet who wasn’t fantastically polite and kind; they hold the doors open for you, thank you when you do it for them, etc. Ross Hall has literally not met any of those ridiculous misconceptions yet.
As for Schwitzer Hall, I obviously can’t say that I personally know what it’s like living there, but I’ve got two friends (hey Chelsea, what’s up Alexis) who do. Neither of them have had a single thing to complain about yet other than the fact that those girls don’t seem to use their basement’s facilities the way that we do here at Ross. And the basements in the freshman dorms contain pool tables and ping pong tables and large TVs and other things that provide entertainment for us, as well as laundry rooms and sinks and vending machines and whatnot. Which, I mean, it’s pretty understandable. Guys generally tend to enjoy those kinds of things more than girls do, and Maria and I (as well as a few other Ross girls) must just be the exception, because by the end of the year we’re going to be champs at pool.
Okay maybe I wouldn’t go that far.
But anyway, there you have it. Make the choice based on what will make you most comfortable, not what you’ve heard about each option. Because if you’re like me and your hundreds of miles away from home, the last thing you need is to be uncomfortable with where you live.
I also chose Ross for many of the same reasons Carissa did; less drama, guys are easier to get along with, etc. But I did choose Ross just because I thought it would be funny to tell my dad I would be living in a co-ed dorm (love you daddy:*)